Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate

 

 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.  And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.  The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"  And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?  So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.  Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."  They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?"  He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.  And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."  

 

His disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry."  But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given:  For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother's womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.  He who is able to accept it, let him accept it."

 

- Matthew 19:1–12 

 

In yesterday's reading we read that, after Jesus' teaching on mutual correction in the Church, Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him?  Up to seven times?"  Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.  Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants.  And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents.  But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made.  The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, 'Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.'  Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.  But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, 'Pay me what you owe!'  So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.'  And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt.  So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done.  Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, 'You wicked servant!  I forgave you all that debt because you begged me.  Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?'  And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.  So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses."

 

 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.  And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.  The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?"  And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'?  So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.  Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."  They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?"  He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.  And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."  My study Bible informs us that the basis of the Pharisees' test in this question about divorce is Deuteronomy 24:1-4.  It notes that God's condescension, or allowance for human weakness, does not override the original principle of permanent monogamous marriage as revealed in Genesis 1; 2.  With authority, Christ twice adds His own clear prohibition against divorce here.  We note Christ's preaching on divorce in the Sermon on the Mount found at Matthew 5:31-32.  See also Malachi 2:13-16.  Regarding Christ's final statement here, my study Bible also notes that the possible reasons for divorce were expanded in the ancient Church to include threat to a spouse's or a child's life and desertion, in all cases acknowledging the spiritual tragedy of such a situation.

His disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry."  But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given:  For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother's womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.  He who is able to accept it, let him accept it."  Here my study Bible asks us to see that Christ steers the disciples toward understanding the holiness of virginity -- not as a rejection of marriage, but rather as a special calling for those to whom it has been given.  Eunuchs were men who had been castrated -- whether by birth, defect, disease, or mutilation -- and were often employed to guard women of nobility.  They played a powerful role in the ancient and historical kingdoms of the world.   But here, Jesus uses this term figuratively for those who freely choose lifelong celibacy for the kingdom of heaven.  My study Bible adds that this consecrated virginity is not to be confused with self-mutilation, which the Church condemned at the First Ecumenical Council (AD 325).  See also 1 Corinthians 7:7, 25-38.

The questions regarding divorce proposed to Jesus by the Pharisees were very hotly debated issues in their time.  The Pharisees spent time and energy on questions of the regulation of divorce, and differed from their opponents such as the Sadducees in the Council (the Pharisees were closer to Christ's position, favoring a more strict understanding of the practices of divorce).  Often such questions involved the issues of money and dowry, which included practices of remarriage after divorce to the same woman.  But for our purposes let us consider the emphasis in my study Bible on Jesus' pronouncement of the sacredness of marriage, and the bonds of such a union as a holy institution.  This is where marriage becomes more than a contract, even more than a social contract or personal relationship.  In Christ's view (and in the view of the passage from Malachi previously cited above), marriage in some sense involves three parties:  the two spouses and God who brings them together in the sacrament of marriage.  In the words of Malachi, God is witness in the marriage.  Therefore what Jesus emphasizes here (as well as Malachi) isn't simply the importance of the marriage bond, but rather God's role in sealing and growing that bond, the Spirit enforcing and helping its union.  This adds a different dimension to marriage that is meant to nurture something much deeper than simply what two people can bring to the table, so to speak, in their marriage.  It adds, if we may use this metaphor, the leaven of God to the union of the marriage, in which we can think of marriage not as a static bond, but rather as something which is dynamic.  That is, a relationship that grows and evolves.  In that sense, Jesus invites us to think of marriage as something that needs prayer and nurturing within the holiness God can help bring to it.  And there we may also pause to consider that this teaching comes immediately after Christ's teaching on mutual correction in the Church, as well as on forgiveness in the process of the same.  Essentially both involve the need to rely upon God, upon the communion God offers us within which our own relationships may dwell, and this becomes in some sense the "leaven" of the marriage.  Marriage may involve intense struggles and sacrifices, and can be a bedrock within which people suffer through tragedies and great difficulties that worldly life can offer to us.  A sick or disabled parent, the tragic illness of a spouse, possible afflictions of a child, and worldly events such as wars, natural disasters, and other upheavals, even social calamity, all become part of the experience of marriage when two people bound in holy matrimony must face and struggle with such issues together.  In the modern world, such struggle and sacrifice is all too frequently undermined and undervalued, but it is the very stuff of the bonds we understand of human relationships, and within which children also take their own security and form an awareness of how bonds between people can function,  Marriage also asks of us discipline in all the ways that Christ teaches us as His followers:  to watch our words, to know our own weaknesses and flaws, and to engage in the process of repentance and forgiveness.  For all of these reasons and more, the Orthodox Church has traditionally called marriage the layperson's way to holiness, the counterpart of monastic life for those others whom Jesus also discusses in today's reading.  Therefore, let us not undervalue marriage as an institution built as part of God's ideal for us, even a kind of effort of mutual giving and sacrifice that builds the bonds of love, tenacity, and a depth of the heart that we would otherwise not know.  These are primary values to hold in our world, which root goodness and depth in our lives, and which are a terrible shame to lose.  Young people who suffer from the loss of such as children often struggle to root their own lives in finding and bringing this depth of relationship and commitment to their own children, for they feel this loss keenly.  When we lose sight of this through easy divorce or lack of commitment to such values, we lose goodness in our lives.  Love always becomes the ultimate root of everything that Jesus teaches us, and importantly, this also includes the "eunuchs" about whom Jesus teaches as well, bringing a sacredness to the commitment of virginity in service to the Lord.  Therefore, no one is left out of this teaching, because there is none left out of God's love and communion in this structure of the Kingdom which Jesus tells us about here.  All are included in the bonds of love and communion and holiness, every one. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For of such is the kingdom of God

 

 Then He arose from there and came to the region of Judea by the other side of the Jordan.  And multitudes gathered to Him again, and as He was accustomed, He taught them again.  The Pharisees came and asked Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" testing Him.  And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?"  They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her."  And Jesus answered and said to them, "Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.  But from the beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.'   For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.   Therefore what God has joined  together, let not man separate."

In the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same matter.  So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her.  And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

Then they brought little children to Him, that He might touch them; but the disciples rebuked those who brought them.  But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God.  Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it."  And He took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them.

 

- Mark 10:1–16 

 

In yesterday's reading, Jesus taught the disciples, "But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea.  If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off.  It is better for you to enter into life maimed, rather than having two hands, to go to hell, into the fire that shall never be quenched -- where 'Their worm does not die, and the fire is not quenched.'  And if your foot causes you to sin, cut it off.  It is better for you to enter life lame, rather than having two feet, to be cast into hell, into the fire that shall never be quenched -- where 'Their worm does not die, and the fire is not quenched.' And if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out.  It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye, rather than having two eyes, to be cast into hell fire -- where 'Their worm does not die, and the fire is not quenched.' For everyone will be seasoned with fire, and every sacrifice will be seasoned with salt.  Salt is good, but if the salt loses its flavor, how will you season it?  Have salt in yourselves, and have peace with one another."

 

  Then He arose from there and came to the region of Judea by the other side of the Jordan.  And multitudes gathered to Him again, and as He was accustomed, He taught them again.  Jesus has once again left Galilee, and now has come to the region of Judea, but not to Jerusalem.  Rather He is east of the Jordan (see this map).   

The Pharisees came and asked Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" testing Him. The Pharisees no doubt know Jesus is in this area teaching to multitudes.  They've come from Jerusalem specifically to test Him.  Divorce was a hotly contested issue in Christ's time, with issues that complicated the nature of divorce because of the contractual agreements, and specifically monies involved, such as the bride-price.  Who would gain control of this money, and lose it through divorce, became a part of the problems of marriage, including remarriage to the same person as a way to gain money.  The Pharisees were actually closer to Christ's position than were other parties in the arguments over this issue.

And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?"  They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her."  And Jesus answered and said to them, "Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.  But from the beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.'   For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.   Therefore what God has joined  together, let not man separate."  The basis for the Pharisees' test is Deuteronomy 24:1-4.  My study Bible comments that, in contrast to the easy access to divorce under the Mosaic Law, and because of the misuse of divorce in that day, Jesus repeatedly condemns divorce (see, for example, Matthew 5:31-32; 19:8-9).  Instead, Jesus emphasizes marriage as a holy institution with an eternal nature.  In Matthew's Gospel, Jesus gives as a possible reason for divorce sexual immorality, which shows that even holy matrimony can be destroyed by sin.  Jesus quotes from Genesis 1:27; 5:2 and Genesis 2:24.

In the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same matter.  So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her.  And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."  My study Bible comments that God's condescension, or allowance for human weakness (by allowing divorce), does not override the original principle of permanent monogamous marriage as revealed in Genesis 1; 2.  Here, Jesus speaks with authority to the disciples, adding His own clear prohibition against divorce.  My study Bible also explains that the permissible reason for divorce were expanded in the ancient Church to include threat to a spouse's or child's life and desertion -- but in all cases acknowledging the spiritual tragedy of such a situation.

Then they brought little children to Him, that He might touch them; but the disciples rebuked those who brought them.  But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God.  Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it."  And He took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them.  According to Theophylact, the disciples rebuked the mothers for bringing little children to Christ because their manner was "unruly" and moreover because they thought that children "diminished His dignity as Teacher and Master."  But Christ turns this thinking on its head, and sets little children as an example of those who inherit the kingdom of God.  So therefore, my study Bible explains, children are invited (even as an example to adults) to participate in the Kingdom through prayer, worship, baptism, chrismation, and Communion.  Theophylact is further quoted by my study Bible:  "A little child is not arrogant, he does not despise anyone, he is innocent and guileless.  He does not inflate himself in the presence of important people, nor withdraw from those in sorrows.  Instead, he lives in completely simplicity."  

With regard to this final comment by Theophylact (as quoted in my study Bible), it's worth taking a look at the important concept of simplicity in Biblical and hence the historical theological terms of the Church.  In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus teaches, "The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light" (Matthew 6:22 KJV).  This verse is often translated to read that one should make one's eye "good" (NKJV), or "sound" (RSV).  But in the Greek of the text, this word translated in various ways is ἁπλοῦς/aplous, which can mean both "simple" and "single."  It literally means "unfolded," and therefore we should think of it as undivided, uncomplicated; or, more to the point, it is the opposite of double.  So, in this sense, to be "simple" and for one's eye to be "single" means without an agenda, straightforward, sincere, without guile; not double-minded.  It speaks to purity of heart.  This concept of the single or simple eye is also linked to that of the evil eye, meaning envy.  (See the reference by Jesus to an evil eye in Mark 7:21-23, as part of this reading).  So, if we're going to take a close look (no pun intended!) at what it means to be "simple" in the Biblical context, we may come to understand something important related both to the little children whom Jesus says are of the kingdom of God, and something important about divorce as well.  Because divorce is so often linked to covetousness, leading to adultery, the concepts here are intertwined.  It is also reflected in the concepts of yesterday's reading (above), in which Jesus taught that "if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out."  To gaze with envy or with covetousness, both of which can play a strong role leading to divorce, is to have an "evil eye" which is not simple but rather double-minded, containing hidden motivations and agendas.  Rather than a single-minded devotion to one's marriage, this kind of narrowing of the gaze, or doubling of one's interior intentions, skews the purposes to which God has instituted holy matrimony and our deepest and strongest relationships.  This is further emphasized by Jesus quoting from the Old Testament that "the two shall become one flesh."  Again, "one flesh" emphasizes the single and the simple nature of the deep bond described as marriage here.   This emphasis on singleness/simplicity is also reflected in Jesus' words to the disciples as He sends them out on their first apostolic mission.  Matthew 10:16 is often translated as teaching the disciples to be "wise as serpents and harmless as doves."  But the word translated as "harmless" is ἀκέραιος/akeraios, meaning "unmixed."  Again the emphasis is on simplicity or singleness meaning "innocent" (it's the same Greek word that St. Paul uses in Romans 16:19).  In all of these related ways, simplicity or singleness becomes an important concept for us to consider when it comes to the teachings of Jesus Christ.  Finally, in the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus teaches, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God" (Matthew 5:8).  Unadulterated, unmixed, simple, single-minded ("eyed"), without guile or deceit:  these are the concepts that define pure in heart, meaning that one is the same from the inside to the outside.  Let us consider how central these concepts are to the doctrine of Jesus Christ and His gospel, and how we seek to live our lives.  

 

 

Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?

Then He arose from there and came to the region of Judea by the other side of the Jordan. And multitudes gathered to him again, and as He was accustomed, He taught them again.

The Pharisees came and asked Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" testing Him. And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?" They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her." And Jesus answered and said to them, "Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."

And in the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same matter. So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

Then they brought little children to Him, that He might touch them, but the disciples rebuked those who brought them. But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God. Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it." And he took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them.

- Mark 10:1-16

In yesterday's reading, Jesus continued with His thoughts from the reading of the day before. In the earlier reading, He had taught, "Whoever receives one of these little children in My name receives Me; and whoever receives Me, receives not Me but Him who sent Me." In yesterday's reading, He began, "But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to stumble, it would be better to him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown into the sea." He taught that it would be better to cut off from oneself a hand, a foot, an eye, rather than continuing to carry in one's life whatever it is that causes one to sin. He is teaching the disciples humility; that "if anyone desires to be the first, he shall be last of all and servant of all." Three times He warns that it is better to enter the kingdom with one hand, one foot, one eye, than to be cast into fire with two. "For everyone will be seasoned with fire, and every sacrifice will be seasoned with salt. Salt is good, but if the salt loses its flavor, how will you season it? Have salt in yourselves, and have peace with one another."

Then He arose from there and came to the region of Judea by the other side of the Jordan. And multitudes gathered to him again, and as He was accustomed, He taught them again. We note that Christ is now once again in Judea. He has warned the disciples in private what is to happen to Him; He has also instructed them to tell to no one that He is the Christ.

The Pharisees came and asked Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?" testing Him. And He answered and said to them, "What did Moses command you?" They said, "Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her." The question would be a rather typical one of concern to the Pharisees and scribes. The debate about the Law and the legal basis (in Judaism) of divorce was an important one. At this time, as Jesus replies, a mere certificate from a dissatisfied man was enough to divorce a wife. So, divorcing a wife was an easy and simple matter.

And Jesus answered and said to them, "Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept." We should consider Jesus' words in the context of history. In the notes on Deuteronomy in my study bible, it's pointed out that Moses' concession of divorce was one that sought to prevent murder and other abuses of a wife whom a husband disliked. We should also consider economically the status of women; a divorce could mean destitution and lack of social status. In that light, a good marriage is a form of protection of women. We should read Jesus' words that follow accompanied by this understanding.

And Jesus answered and said to them, "Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept. But from the beginning of the creation, God 'made them male and female.' 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." In Genesis, we read first of all of the union of Adam and Eve. After the Fall, there is no longer such a union as described here: rather, the woman shall fear her husband; and the husband will toil all of his life. But here, Jesus in effect restores the sacrament of marriage to the status of the first male and female in the Garden, before the Fall. "The two shall become one flesh" tells us about the nature of this union. There is no one with a greater status that lords it over the other. Rather, each gender is united in what is not simply an equal relationship, but one of such love that they are "one flesh." This is the ideal of the sacrament of marriage. It elevates both genders to equal status in love and care, and in this sense it is also inclusive of all in the world. One gender is no longer at the mercy of the other. It is important to consider the context in which He speaks, and that Jesus also tells them of "the hardness of their hearts." Furthermore, the union is one of love and mutual giving, mutual emptying to one another. In this sense, marriage has been called the layperson's way to sanctification, in which one develops a conscious understanding of spiritual virtue, especially all that turns us away from selfish or self-centered impulse. My study bible says they are "joined together in oneness by God." This joining together is similar to the bond of faith; it is a depth of unity that forms "one flesh." "Therefore," says my study bible, "marriage is a sacrament by the grace of God." In this sense, the sacrament of marriage should help us spiritually, to learn to grow closer to God in mutual love and care. This is the image of marriage that Jesus gives us, one that is consistent with the whole of the Gospel message of love. It is indeed an astonishing message. There is another issue which my study bible goes into: "The issue in this passage is not whether divorce is permissible, but whether the union between husband and wife can be broken - even when a divorce occurs." Altogether, Jesus' message is a counsel of love, love as a part of the grace of God, over and against man's "hardness of heart."

And in the house His disciples also asked Him again about the same matter. So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery." Astonishingly, this message is also one of equality. Both partners here are mutually dependent upon one another for relationship, and mutually responsible for that relationship. This will be true in many ways in the Gospels -- a mutually dependent teaching, such as "the measure you give will be the measure you get, and still more will be given you" or "if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." There is a reciprocity that continually runs through many of Jesus' teachings. My study bible points out that the case of a woman divorcing her husband was one only applicable to Gentiles, for a Jewish woman could not legally divorce her husband. Matthew's Gospel adds, "except sexual immorality" to Jesus' words here. The early Church would expand exceptions for divorce, on the grounds of a threat to a partner's life, desertion, and forced prostitution. But as with all of Jesus' teachings, we must go back to the intent of the Law, the love of God. All things are for mercy; the intent of the institution is for love and mutual care, for life.

Then they brought little children to Him, that He might touch them, but the disciples rebuked those who brought them. But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God. Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it." And he took them up in His arms, laid His hands on them, and blessed them. My study bible notes here: "Jesus rebukes the disciples not only because He has compassion for children, but because children are models of those who receive the kingdom. In their openness and simple trust." The care of children must also be a consideration when speaking of the bonds of love in marriage.

Today we debate marriage on many grounds in the society. But too often, it seems to me, we lose sight of Jesus' point here. At issue is quite simply the sacrament that brings us together in love, as a bond of grace, and a way of mutually growing together in love and especially toward a deepening spirituality, toward God. Can we shift our discussions to understand Jesus' depth of commitment to love and mutual care? His radical commitment to inclusion and equality must also be seen and understood here. There is a complementarity at work in this love. Even children, and the depth of care allotted to those who are least in the society, is included with this passage, just as images of children or the "little ones" formed the basis of the teachings in readings from the past two days. Altogether, we can see a thread of teaching first to the disciples about leadership and humility, and then to the issue of marriage as one of mutually emptying toward one another. There is no power struggle in this image of marriage between partners. Rather, Jesus enforces the opposite, just as he teaches that leadership in His church shall be based on servanthood. The Way for those in the Church is the Way in marriage between spouses. Can we focus on this? Can we focus on mutual love and care? As a sacrament of God, this is the grace, the gift we are given. This is the issue here. As always, Jesus' message is one of love and inclusion -- even to the little children in whose faces one must see not only Christ, but the One who sent Him. That is always the place we must draw ourselves back toward. Without the attitude of a child, the way Jesus teaches us, how do we get there?